• For Our Daughters
  • Backstabber
    This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.

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  • Double Dragon

    The Double Dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of covert aggression and empowerment - two heads coming out of one body.

    For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.

    Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.

    The possibility for their manifestation exists in every person. Some people do play the role of aggressor as opposed to target, but to become an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.

    Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.

    Demian Yumei,
    ~"DreamSinger"

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When I Needed Them the Most

Published By Diane On Wednesday, October 31st 2007. Under Guest Authors, Your Story    
When I Needed Them the Most
Hi Demian, Thank you for the work you do. Over the course of 2 years three key relationships with women in my life have been destroyed because they behaved in a way that I would have thought impossible at one time. It began with a colleague. She and I worked ... Read More

Trying to Move On in the Aftermath

Published By dpsling On Tuesday, October 16th 2007. Under Guest Authors, Your Story    
Trying to Move On in the Aftermath
(This is a recent comment that the author gave me permission to move here as a separate post under her user name. I think it covers some very interesting points and would like to continue the dialog here as a post in its own right, rather than under a post ... Read More

RA in Nursing – Crabs in a Pot

Published By Phoenix On Saturday, June 30th 2007. Under Guest Authors, Your Story    
RA in Nursing – Crabs in a Pot
by Phoenix - Guest Author Nurses and crabs in a pot. When I was describing my plight of nasty nursing peers and back stabbing by fellow nurses to a dear friend, she described it as being similar to "crabs in a pot"! Each crab will pull the others down to ... Read More

Dialogue About Drama

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Wednesday, August 2nd 2006. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Dialogue About Drama
With school start-up just a short time away, an ideal opportunity exists to get your daughter (or any other girl) discussing relational aggression. Rather than waiting to respond when a bullying situation occurs, spend some of your remaining downtime :) chatting with her and developing a proactive plan for ... Read More

Thrilled to be Tough

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Thursday, July 20th 2006. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Thrilled to be Tough
Just reviewed yet another research report that showed how often boys admit (and are even proud of) being considered a bullying type of person and how rarely girls will confess to the same. With Simon Baer Cohn's book The Essential Difference" fresh in my mind, it's shouldn't be ... Read More

Danish Dreams

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Friday, July 14th 2006. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Danish Dreams
As I mentioned in an earlier post, this past year involved many exciting projects for me. One in particular I'd like to share here was done in conjunction with Anne Marino, a social worker/actress/mom/community mobilizer/incredible gal pal I've known for several years. We had a group of middle school girls ... Read More

Snow White and Other Wicked Mothers

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Tuesday, July 11th 2006. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors, Resources    
Snow White and Other Wicked Mothers
It's was interesting to read Demian's last post, because the writing of my newest book just led me to revisit how women are portrayed in fairy tales. This is a well studied subject in feminist literature, but as I paged through the beautifully illustrated tales I read my own children, ... Read More

The Devil Wore Prada

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Tuesday, June 27th 2006. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors, Resources    
The Devil Wore Prada
If you've read the book, you know "The Devil Wears Prada" by Lauren Weisberger is very entertaining, and since Meryl Streep is one of my favorite actresses I find myself eager to see the movie. What I enjoyed about the novel (and a counterpart on the poetry publishing industry called ... Read More

What We Share

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Monday, June 26th 2006. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
What We Share
A comment from a reader has made me think I concentrate too much on divisions among women and girls, so I'd like to recognize all the sharing and synergy that is present among women--at least in my life. 1. My collaboration with Demian and another group of women I call ... Read More

Betrayed by Our Own?

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Tuesday, June 13th 2006. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Betrayed by Our Own?
Ann Coulter has been on my radar screen ever since she bullied an airport attendant in my home town last fall, but this week her behavior has left me feeling like an RA bystander. In case you missed her verbal blast against the widows of 9/11 heros, you can ... Read More
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