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When we hesitate to define our boundaries

Written by Demian Yumei on January 23, 2009 — 2 Comments

So many of us feel guilty about setting boundaries, as if somehow it’s just not a nice thing to do. We feel guilty, because most people are basically caring people. When people try to intrude into our space, we can sense on some level their desperation. We know they are feeling pain, and it’s hard [...]

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Some Observations

Written by Demian Yumei on August 16, 2008 — Leave a Comment

Well, I’ve been busy off doing other things, as you may well have noticed. I had my hands full ending the home school year and getting ready for another. We’re going to be doing things differently this year, at least to start off with, and there are a lot of new arrangements that need to [...]

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Comments accidentally deleted

Written by Demian Yumei on August 16, 2008 — Leave a Comment

I’m so sorry, but for some reason my spam filter is acting up. I accidentally deleted some legitimate comments along with the spam, and when I tried to retrieve them like I’m supposed to be able to, I wasn’t allowed. I’m very upset with this, as people’s comments and experiences are important to me. I’m [...]

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Have you ever noticed…

Written by Demian Yumei on December 19, 2007 — Leave a Comment

…that when you call a child “fat”, “stupid”, or “ugly”, it’s bullying? But when you call an adult those things…it’s comedy?

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What do you care about what people think?

Written by Demian Yumei on December 18, 2007 — Leave a Comment

Well, I don’t…not until it interferes with my ability and right to live my life without undue prejudice or harassment. I’ve always found it curious that we are often so dismissive of how hurtful “what other people think” can be when it comes to children or individuals…as if the thoughts of others floated around on [...]

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