• For Our Daughters
  • Backstabber
    This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.

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  • Double Dragon

    The Double Dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of covert aggression and empowerment - two heads coming out of one body.

    For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.

    Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.

    The possibility for their manifestation exists in every person. Some people do play the role of aggressor as opposed to target, but to become an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.

    Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.

    Demian Yumei,
    ~"DreamSinger"

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When we hesitate to define our boundaries

Published By Demian Yumei On Friday, January 23rd 2009. Under Demian's Articles, Healing Steps  Tags: , , ,   
When we hesitate to define our boundaries
So many of us feel guilty about setting boundaries, as if somehow it's just not a nice thing to do. We feel guilty, because most people are basically caring people. When people try to intrude into our space, we can sense on some level their desperation. We know they are feeling ... Read More

Why This Hit Me So Hard

Published By Demian Yumei On Friday, December 14th 2007. Under Demian's Articles, Healing Steps, Megan Meier  Tags: , , , , ,   
Why This Hit Me So Hard
In the post, "As if nothing happened", on my personal blog, I explain why the situation with Megan Meier had hit me so hard. It took me a while to figure it out and even longer to go through all the emotions it triggered within me. This is a very personal ... Read More

Healing Steps 3

Published By Demian Yumei On Monday, November 19th 2007. Under Audio, Demian's Articles, Healing Steps, Songs  Tags: , ,   
Healing Steps 3
Intro to Healing Steps Series Healing Steps 1 Healing Steps 2 Healing doesn’t stand still. With one act of blessing another, in the small drama between two people, the goodwill I felt within my heart with "Dancing Cranes" evolved into "For the Sake of Love". From microcosm to macrocosm, from individual to global, ... Read More

Healing Steps 2

Published By Demian Yumei On Friday, November 16th 2007. Under Audio, Demian's Articles, Healing Steps, Songs    
Healing Steps 2
Intro to Healing Steps Series Healing Steps 1 One of the reasons why we are, often, afraid to look at our anger, is because we think that is all there is. We're afraid if we give voice to our rage, we'll never stop screaming. But that's not true. Step 2: Letting Go Song: ... Read More

Healing Steps 1

Published By Demian Yumei On Thursday, November 15th 2007. Under Audio, Demian's Articles, Healing Steps, Songs    
Healing Steps 1
When you are a target of relational aggression, the last thing the aggressor and her collaborators want you to do is speak out. The first thing you often lose, as a result, is your voice. Step 1: Speaking Your Truth Song: Backstabber (For lyrics and more songs: www.soundclick.com/dreamsinger) ... Read More

What is the Healing Journey?

Published By Demian Yumei On Wednesday, November 14th 2007. Under Demian's Articles, Healing Steps    
What is the Healing Journey?
Intro: What is the healing journey, anyway? The healing journey is open to all, whether we inflict the suffering or endure it. We embark on it through telling ourselves the truth, either our culpability or the suffering we're experiencing, and then choosing to be, at least, willing to live differently. ... Read More