When we hesitate to define our boundaries
Published By Demian Yumei On Friday, January 23rd 2009. Under Demian's Articles, Healing Steps Tags: boundaries, covert abuse, guilt, relational aggression
So many of us feel guilty about setting boundaries, as if somehow it's just not a nice thing to do.
We feel guilty, because most people are basically caring people. When people try to intrude into our space, we can sense on some level their desperation. We know they are feeling ... Read More
Why This Hit Me So Hard
Published By Demian Yumei On Friday, December 14th 2007. Under Demian's Articles, Healing Steps, Megan Meier Tags: abuse, bullying, forum, healing, Megan Meier, trauma
In the post, "As if nothing happened", on my personal blog, I explain why the situation with Megan Meier had hit me so hard. It took me a while to figure it out and even longer to go through all the emotions it triggered within me.
This is a very personal ... Read More
Healing Steps 3
Published By Demian Yumei On Monday, November 19th 2007. Under Audio, Demian's Articles, Healing Steps, Songs Tags: forgiveness, forgiving, healing
Intro to Healing Steps Series
Healing Steps 1
Healing Steps 2
Healing doesn’t stand still. With one act of blessing another, in the small drama between two people, the goodwill I felt within my heart with "Dancing Cranes" evolved into "For the Sake of Love". From microcosm to macrocosm, from individual to global, ... Read More
Healing Steps 2
Published By Demian Yumei On Friday, November 16th 2007. Under Audio, Demian's Articles, Healing Steps, Songs
Intro to Healing Steps Series
Healing Steps 1
One of the reasons why we are, often, afraid to look at our anger, is because we think that is all there is. We're afraid if we give voice to our rage, we'll never stop screaming. But that's not true.
Step 2: Letting Go
Song: ... Read More
Healing Steps 1
Published By Demian Yumei On Thursday, November 15th 2007. Under Audio, Demian's Articles, Healing Steps, Songs
When you are a target of relational aggression, the last thing the aggressor and her collaborators want you to do is speak out. The first thing you often lose, as a result, is your voice.
Step 1: Speaking Your Truth
Song: Backstabber
(For lyrics and more songs: www.soundclick.com/dreamsinger)
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What is the Healing Journey?
Intro:
What is the healing journey, anyway?
The healing journey is open to all, whether we inflict the suffering or endure it. We embark on it through telling ourselves the truth, either our culpability or the suffering we're experiencing, and then choosing to be, at least, willing to live differently.
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