Author Archives: Demian Yumei

Unintended Consequences?

Written by Demian Yumei on February 27, 2009 — Leave a Comment

At home school co-op a few days ago, one of the mothers talked about her friend who knew of a child, going through bullying in first grade. She said this child suffered alienation and was treated meanly by the other kids. The alienation was orchestrated by one child, whose lead the other children in the [...]

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Chinese New Year

Written by Demian Yumei on January 26, 2009 — Leave a Comment

Happy Chinese New Year! Year of the Ox. The ox stands for persistence and tenacity. I hope for you this year the strength and perseverance to be true to your ideals and principles, and your own healing path. Where there is duplicity and manipulation, may there be clarity and empowerment. Where there is usury and [...]

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When we hesitate to define our boundaries

Written by Demian Yumei on January 23, 2009 — 2 Comments

So many of us feel guilty about setting boundaries, as if somehow it’s just not a nice thing to do. We feel guilty, because most people are basically caring people. When people try to intrude into our space, we can sense on some level their desperation. We know they are feeling pain, and it’s hard [...]

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Some Observations

Written by Demian Yumei on August 16, 2008 — Leave a Comment

Well, I’ve been busy off doing other things, as you may well have noticed. I had my hands full ending the home school year and getting ready for another. We’re going to be doing things differently this year, at least to start off with, and there are a lot of new arrangements that need to [...]

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Comments accidentally deleted

Written by Demian Yumei on August 16, 2008 — Leave a Comment

I’m so sorry, but for some reason my spam filter is acting up. I accidentally deleted some legitimate comments along with the spam, and when I tried to retrieve them like I’m supposed to be able to, I wasn’t allowed. I’m very upset with this, as people’s comments and experiences are important to me. I’m [...]

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