• For Our Daughters
  • Backstabber
    This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.

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  • Double Dragon

    The Double Dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of covert aggression and empowerment - two heads coming out of one body.

    For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.

    Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.

    The possibility for their manifestation exists in every person. Some people do play the role of aggressor as opposed to target, but to become an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.

    Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.

    Demian Yumei,
    ~"DreamSinger"

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Dialogue About Drama

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Wednesday, August 2nd 2006. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Dialogue About Drama
With school start-up just a short time away, an ideal opportunity exists to get your daughter (or any other girl) discussing relational aggression. Rather than waiting to respond when a bullying situation occurs, spend some of your remaining downtime :) chatting with her and developing a proactive plan for ... Read More

Thrilled to be Tough

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Thursday, July 20th 2006. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Thrilled to be Tough
Just reviewed yet another research report that showed how often boys admit (and are even proud of) being considered a bullying type of person and how rarely girls will confess to the same. With Simon Baer Cohn's book The Essential Difference" fresh in my mind, it's shouldn't be ... Read More

Danish Dreams

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Friday, July 14th 2006. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Danish Dreams
As I mentioned in an earlier post, this past year involved many exciting projects for me. One in particular I'd like to share here was done in conjunction with Anne Marino, a social worker/actress/mom/community mobilizer/incredible gal pal I've known for several years. We had a group of middle school girls ... Read More

Snow White and Other Wicked Mothers

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Tuesday, July 11th 2006. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors, Resources    
Snow White and Other Wicked Mothers
It's was interesting to read Demian's last post, because the writing of my newest book just led me to revisit how women are portrayed in fairy tales. This is a well studied subject in feminist literature, but as I paged through the beautifully illustrated tales I read my own children, ... Read More

The Devil Wore Prada

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Tuesday, June 27th 2006. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors, Resources    
The Devil Wore Prada
If you've read the book, you know "The Devil Wears Prada" by Lauren Weisberger is very entertaining, and since Meryl Streep is one of my favorite actresses I find myself eager to see the movie. What I enjoyed about the novel (and a counterpart on the poetry publishing industry called ... Read More

What We Share

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Monday, June 26th 2006. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
What We Share
A comment from a reader has made me think I concentrate too much on divisions among women and girls, so I'd like to recognize all the sharing and synergy that is present among women--at least in my life. 1. My collaboration with Demian and another group of women I call ... Read More

Betrayed by Our Own?

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Tuesday, June 13th 2006. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Betrayed by Our Own?
Ann Coulter has been on my radar screen ever since she bullied an airport attendant in my home town last fall, but this week her behavior has left me feeling like an RA bystander. In case you missed her verbal blast against the widows of 9/11 heros, you can ... Read More

Cruel to be Kind Books

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Wednesday, May 24th 2006. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Cruel to be Kind Books
Whenever I see a girl reading a book with great interest, I make a point of finding out why she likes it. Now that I'm about to become a YA fiction author (more later) I've taken to reading some of the more popular series books I see on the ... Read More

My Music Therapist

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Saturday, April 29th 2006. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
My Music Therapist
The "Just for Me" retreat ended six hours ago but Demian's voice still echoes in my mind. It brought back our first meeting, when she drove 30 miles to Harrisburg and sang two songs for the young women at Camp Ophelia (as a volunteer, no less). I got ... Read More

Time Magazine Highlights Club Ophelia

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Tuesday, April 25th 2006. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Time Magazine Highlights Club Ophelia
A few months ago, a reporter from Time magazine called and asked if he might come to a Club Ophelia session. Having previously gone the way of getting numerous parental and school permissions for events that didn't happen, I was wary, but with the help of one of my ... Read More
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