[This blog says its about relational aggression, and I hope to offer some good resources and engage in some good conversation concerning it, but my purpose is to focus on healing from the abuse of relational aggression.

In this post and the next several following posts I will share with you what the healing journey means to me, particularly in regard to my experience with relational aggression. Because I am a musician and believe in the power of creativity, the Healing Steps posts will correlate to songs I wrote on each stage of my healing.]

Intro:
What is the healing journey, anyway?

The healing journey is open to all, whether we inflict the suffering or endure it. We embark on it through telling ourselves the truth, either our culpability or the suffering we’re experiencing, and then choosing to be, at least, willing to live differently.

Wounds can be inflicted in a variety of ways, but the impact can be remarkably similar. A cut from a serrated knife is different from the wound of a bullet, but they both make you bleed and both can make you die. A clenched fist bruises flesh and a sharp tongue batters feelings, but they both assault the spirit and both can crush your sense of worth.

Every personal path is made different by the terrain through which it weaves. The impressions of our unique footsteps and our individual cadence makes our path our own, but every healing journey in principle, is essentially, the same.

There are shared guideposts along our individual paths. And though how we travel may vary, we all head in the same direction.

The healing journey has one primary purpose and that is to go from fragmented to integrated, from disjointed to whole.

It is to recover what has been lost or discover what is new. It’s to find our selves, our dreams, our hopes through ownership, commitment, and compassion, perhaps ultimately forgiveness. It is to find our voice, the sound of our authenticity - one of the first things we lose in our wounding.

The key to healing revolves around your power to choose. The work of healing is to find your voice. The gift of healing is offering to listen. The beginning of healing is knowing you’ve been heard. And the Grace of healing is to simply receive.

No matter the wound, no matter the details. Healing is available to all.

Healing Steps Intro
Healing Steps 1