Not only to drugs and men, but to each other. Women are so scared about hurting other people’s feelings. It’s a dichotomy, isn’t it? We’re hypersensitive to hurting other people to the point where we’ll let people walk on us, intrude upon us and do things we don’t have time to do or want to do, but are just too “nice” to say no.
But then we can be so incredibly hurtful to one another, too.
It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to draw boundaries, to set limits with other people, with coworkers and friends. We don’t always have to placate someone else.
Saying no is not mean. And you don’t really hurt feelings when you ask another to respect you and what you can or are willing to do.
I trust kind people. I don’t trust “nice” people. You can stab someone in the back with a cheery smile just as easy as with a frown, but kindness would never go there. Kindness has integrity.
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