• For Our Daughters
  • Backstabber
    This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.

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  • Double Dragon

    The Double Dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of covert aggression and empowerment - two heads coming out of one body.

    For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.

    Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.

    The possibility for their manifestation exists in every person. Some people do play the role of aggressor as opposed to target, but to become an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.

    Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.

    Demian Yumei,
    ~"DreamSinger"

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Empathy starts with you

Published By Demian Yumei On Thursday, October 18th 2007. Under Demian's Articles    
Empathy starts with you
In watching part of the video yesterday, one thing jumped out at me. The teachers in the video were talking about taking specific steps to help a child develop empathy. In an emotional situation, they asked the child how they felt, what they were feeling. They invited the child to ... Read More

Blog: School Violence and Bullying

Published By Demian Yumei On Wednesday, October 17th 2007. Under Demian's Articles, Resources    
Blog: School Violence and Bullying
I discovered this site, School Violence and Bullying, by Julia Howell, when I was looking through my webstats and saw my blog linked to it. What a pleasant discovery, as I'm sitting on my porch, laptop in hand, enjoying my ice tea on this fall day. It appears to be ... Read More

Website: Daughters-Sisters.org

Published By Demian Yumei On Wednesday, October 17th 2007. Under Resources    
Website: Daughters-Sisters.org
This makes me want to move to Washington. A wonderfully revolutionary idea in practice. Not so much anti-bullying, but pro-communication and empowerment within a viable social structure, which is the antidote to all bullying, covert and overt. http://www.daughters-sisters.org/ ... Read More

Trying to Move On in the Aftermath

Published By dpsling On Tuesday, October 16th 2007. Under Guest Authors, Your Story    
Trying to Move On in the Aftermath
(This is a recent comment that the author gave me permission to move here as a separate post under her user name. I think it covers some very interesting points and would like to continue the dialog here as a post in its own right, rather than under a post ... Read More

The Importance of Speaking Out

Published By Demian Yumei On Monday, October 15th 2007. Under Demian's Articles    
The Importance of Speaking Out
Being validated is SO important in dealing with relational aggression, because by its very nature it seeks to cut you off from others, to silence you - either by people turning their backs on you or you being made to look crazy or the bad one when you try to ... Read More

Jealousy among friends…

Published By Demian Yumei On Saturday, October 13th 2007. Under Demian's Articles    
Jealousy among friends…
Here's an email I received a while back from someone who purchased the first edition of my book, "Where There's Smoke", (currently going through revision for 2nd edition), reprinted here with permission. I'm including my reply. Any comments or sharing of your experiences are more than welcome. :-) Hi Demian, Thank you ... Read More

Story Behind the Pictures

Published By Demian Yumei On Thursday, October 11th 2007. Under Demian's Articles    
Story Behind the Pictures
The picture on the far left in the banner above was taken last year, when my oldest daughter "tricked" me into going to a bar. We were supposed to go out to a lovely dinner at an Irish pub, which we did. But when we got there, she informed me ... Read More

Relational Aggression between High Ranking Women?

Published By Demian Yumei On Saturday, October 6th 2007. Under Demian's Articles    
Relational Aggression between High Ranking Women?
I was reading an article this morning, "Threatened Author Back in Netherlands". Hirsi Ali's entire situation is alarming, but this paragraph jumped out at me. The Somali-born Hirsi Ali, now 37, quit parliament last year when the immigration minister _ a woman from her own party _ tried to strip ... Read More

What’s your secret?

Published By Demian Yumei On Thursday, October 4th 2007. Under Demian's Articles    
What’s your secret?
I originally wrote this in an email, and then felt it was appropriate for my Stop Apologizing Blog for older women...women of any age, actually. But after posting it there, I decided I really wanted to share it here, as well, because women of all ages, including those still young ... Read More

Website and Instruction Materials: No Name-Calling Week

Published By Demian Yumei On Wednesday, October 3rd 2007. Under Resources    
Website and Instruction Materials: No Name-Calling Week
A website for No Name-Calling Week, which runs January 21-25, 2008. From their website: No Name-Calling Week is an annual week of educational activities aimed at ending name-calling of all kinds and providing schools with the tools and inspiration to launch an on-going dialogue about ways to eliminate bullying in their communities. This ... Read More
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