• For Our Daughters
  • Backstabber
    This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.

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  • Double Dragon

    The Double Dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of covert aggression and empowerment - two heads coming out of one body.

    For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.

    Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.

    The possibility for their manifestation exists in every person. Some people do play the role of aggressor as opposed to target, but to become an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.

    Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.

    Demian Yumei,
    ~"DreamSinger"

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When I Needed Them the Most

Published By Diane On Wednesday, October 31st 2007. Under Guest Authors, Your Story    
When I Needed Them the Most
Hi Demian, Thank you for the work you do. Over the course of 2 years three key relationships with women in my life have been destroyed because they behaved in a way that I would have thought impossible at one time. It began with a colleague. She and I worked ... Read More

National Women’s Hall of Fame

Published By Demian Yumei On Tuesday, October 30th 2007. Under Demian's Articles, Resources    
National Women’s Hall of Fame
All all girls like this, or even most girls, as in mean, catty, backstabbing, petty, etc? Um...no. And neither are women. Here's a wonderful place to peruse, in case, you need some evidence that we're not all "mean girls" or "desperate housewives". National Women's Hall of Fame And these women inducted into this ... Read More

Video: Evolution

Published By Demian Yumei On Monday, October 29th 2007. Under Resources    
Video: Evolution
I posted a link to this video before, but didn't have the URL to embed it in the post. I think it's a really powerful video, so since I just found the URL, I'm posting it again. Again, courtesy of Dove, Campaign for Real Beauty ... Read More

Parental influence

Published By Demian Yumei On Friday, October 26th 2007. Under Demian's Articles, Resources    
Parental influence
An article about relational aggression starting very early in some girls. The part of the article that really jumped out at me was this: Other research at BYU has shown that physically and relationally aggressive children are more likely to have parents who discipline with psychological control and manipulation, withdrawing love, avoiding ... Read More

Acting Like It Didn’t Happen

Published By Demian Yumei On Thursday, October 25th 2007. Under Demian's Articles, Resources    
Acting Like It Didn’t Happen
One characteristic of relational aggression is acting like something didn't happen, whether it was a snub, a comment, an entire weekend of alienating someone, a general unkind attitude when around others, but suddenly nice when you're alone. It can happen with one person or a whole group can join in, ... Read More

Self Esteem Workshops

Published By Demian Yumei On Wednesday, October 24th 2007. Under Demian's Articles, Resources    
Self Esteem Workshops
As part of their commitment to enhancing self esteem, Dove offers videos of six workshops by Jess Weiner. I only watched Chapter 1 of the first workshop, but I liked what was being discussed and how Jess Weiner interacted with the girls. I'm going to check out the rest of them ... Read More

Self Esteem

Published By Demian Yumei On Tuesday, October 23rd 2007. Under Demian's Articles    
Self Esteem
Self esteem without accomplishment in something that is meaningful to you is difficult to achieve. Self esteem is different than self worth. Self worth is a given. It's the value you hold as a human being by nature of being human. It's something that we all share as members of ... Read More

Video: Onslaught

Published By Demian Yumei On Monday, October 22nd 2007. Under Demian's Articles, Resources    
Video: Onslaught
I love Dove.com, the company and their commitment to empowering women and girls. Lots of good resources at their site, Campaign for Real Beauty. Self esteem is a big issue in relational aggression. The more secure a girl or woman is, the less likely they will be to resort to relational ... Read More

The 2nd Female Empowerment Event

Published By Demian Yumei On Monday, October 22nd 2007. Under Updates and Events    
The 2nd Female Empowerment Event
I will be singing at this event this Wednesday. The Victim Assistance Center is holding a second Female Empowerment Event from 6 to 9 PM on October 24, 2007 at the Yorktowne Hotel in the Colonial Room, York PA. This event is a Costume Party (a pleasant twist on the ... Read More

Article “Scourge of the mean girls”

Published By Demian Yumei On Friday, October 19th 2007. Under Demian's Articles, Resources    
Article “Scourge of the mean girls”
Here's an archived article from the New York Daily News about young "mean girls" with some basic good tips on how to deal with relational aggression. Scourge of the mean girls. Not crazy about the title for various reasons, but the tips are helpful. 5 tips for coping with a ... Read More
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