• For Our Daughters
  • Backstabber
    This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.

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  • Double Dragon

    The Double Dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of covert aggression and empowerment - two heads coming out of one body.

    For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.

    Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.

    The possibility for their manifestation exists in every person. Some people do play the role of aggressor as opposed to target, but to become an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.

    Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.

    Demian Yumei,
    ~"DreamSinger"

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RA in Nursing – Crabs in a Pot

Published By Phoenix On Saturday, June 30th 2007. Under Guest Authors, Your Story    
RA in Nursing – Crabs in a Pot
by Phoenix - Guest Author Nurses and crabs in a pot. When I was describing my plight of nasty nursing peers and back stabbing by fellow nurses to a dear friend, she described it as being similar to "crabs in a pot"! Each crab will pull the others down to ... Read More

Discussions continue here…

Published By Demian Yumei On Friday, June 29th 2007. Under Demian's Articles, Updates and Events    
Discussions continue here…
I have closed the forum at keepingthedream.net. I'll be redirecting that url to my personal website, so if you're used to going there and wind up at www.keepingthedream.com, don't be surprised! It was a fabulous learning experience. I met some wonderful people, and I'm so proud that I actually put together ... Read More

Stereotypes

Published By Demian Yumei On Thursday, June 28th 2007. Under Demian's Articles    
Stereotypes
One thing that has impressed me throughout the whole journey of writing my book, "Where There's Smoke", is how much women care. I've developed an attitude toward the stereotypes of women and girls as "cut throaty" and "backstabbing". I don't think it's fair. True, I have a song by that ... Read More

Communication and Agendas

Published By Demian Yumei On Tuesday, June 26th 2007. Under Demian's Articles    
Communication and Agendas
I received a newsletter from one of my favorite authors, Patricia Evans today. She focuses more often on the dynamics between men and women, but the principles I learned concerning what verbal abuse is applies to relational aggression, as well. In June's newsletter, she writes: Unfortunately, when people don't recognize verbal ... Read More

Article: “The School Mediator: How Girls Fight”

Published By Demian Yumei On Wednesday, June 20th 2007. Under Demian's Articles, Resources    
Article: “The School Mediator: How Girls Fight”
Interesting read on relational aggression and the use of mediators: The School Mediator: How Girls Fight A portion of the article from Richard Cohen reads: I for one certainly hope that all this attention leads educators to: *Attune themselves to notice this type of behavior *State unequivocally that relational aggression is unacceptable *Subject students who ... Read More

Cliques and Making Friends

Published By Demian Yumei On Monday, June 18th 2007. Under Demian's Articles    
Cliques and Making Friends
I'm amazed at how quickly my little girl can make friends. She thinks nothing of walking up to kids who are total strangers or sitting next to them and introducing herself. She's, also, homeschooled, so she's used to hanging out with a large group of kids in a wide range ... Read More

Oh, please…

Published By Demian Yumei On Monday, June 11th 2007. Under Updates and Events    
Oh, please…
...tell me my last post really wasn't in April! Well, that's when I enrolled my daughter in Agora, a cyber school hoping it would provide me with greater support and give me more time, BUT that's not what happened. It turned out that I wound up having to do twice the ... Read More