• For Our Daughters
  • Backstabber
    This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.

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  • Double Dragon

    The Double Dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of covert aggression and empowerment - two heads coming out of one body.

    For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.

    Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.

    The possibility for their manifestation exists in every person. Some people do play the role of aggressor as opposed to target, but to become an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.

    Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.

    Demian Yumei,
    ~"DreamSinger"

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My Worst Experience with RA

Published By Demian Yumei On Friday, December 22nd 2006. Under Demian's Articles    
My Worst Experience with RA
My worst experience with relational aggression. Well, I don't know if it was the worst, but it definitely was the eye opener for me. And it wasn't in grade school or middle school or high school, though I have stories there to share. It happened in my adult years. That's the ... Read More

website: NetSmartz.org

Published By Demian Yumei On Tuesday, December 19th 2006. Under Resources    
website: NetSmartz.org
An incredible rich resource of information concerning cyber safety, NetSmartz.org. I discovered this site through MySpace, www.myspace.com/nc_cyberlaw. I'm a bit overwhelmed right now with all the information on NetSmartz, but it's definitely work exploring indepth. There are five sections, Parents and Guardians, Educators, Law Enforcers, Teens and Kids, which I had ... Read More

Covert Encouragement?

Published By Demian Yumei On Friday, December 15th 2006. Under Demian's Articles    
Covert Encouragement?
I was just reading a short article on relational aggession on the Courage for Youth website. This sentence jumped out at me. The BC Safe School Task Force Report states, "The Task Force learned that bystanders are not innocent witnesses in many cases and are often the cause of bullying." ... Read More

A bit of pride…

Published By Demian Yumei On Thursday, December 14th 2006. Under Demian's Articles    
A bit of pride…
Tonight I caught a glimpse of a PBS documentary. I wish I had caught the whole thing, but what I did see warmed my heart. It was an interfaith group of women who joined together, and one by one, standing side by side and grasping each other's hand, made a ... Read More

Don’t Apologize for Who You Are

Published By Demian Yumei On Friday, December 8th 2006. Under Demian's Articles    
Don’t Apologize for Who You Are
I made a post on my Keeping the Dream blog, and I want to address it here more specifically here, because it goes to image and how we see ourselves, and image is inextricably tied up in relational aggression. Being a "girl" is, often, used as an insult. "You throw ... Read More

Website: Stop Bullying Now

Published By Demian Yumei On Wednesday, December 6th 2006. Under Resources    
Website: Stop Bullying Now
I just discovered this site tonight, and it is really awesome. There are animated presentations they call "webisodes", which are webcasts. The site is fun and informative, but it's not geared just for kids. There's information for adults as well. This month's webisode has to do with how girls are ... Read More

Relational Aggression: A Continuum

Published By Demian Yumei On Monday, December 4th 2006. Under Demian's Articles    
Relational Aggression: A Continuum
One of the things that's important for me to emphasis is that relational aggression is a continuum along a set of choices that any one of us can make. It's not a specific person or even a type of person. It's so easy to fall into stereotypes when we do ... Read More