RELATIONAL AGGRESSION and COVERT BULLYING

Archive for July 20th, 2006

Thrilled to be Tough

Posted in July 20th, 2006

by Cheryl Dellasega in Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors

Just reviewed yet another research report that showed how often boys admit (and are even proud of) being considered a bullying type of person and how rarely girls will confess to the same. With Simon Baer Cohn’s book The Essential Difference” fresh in my mind, it’s shouldn’t be surprising that females hesitate to […]

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For Our Daughters

Backstabber

This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.

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The double dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of relational aggression and female power - two heads coming out of one body.

For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.

Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.

Certainly, aggressors and targets are specific roles that people do play, but the point here is that the possibility for their manifestation exists in every person.

On this healing journey, it is important to remember that the reality of an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.

Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you the blessing of insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.

Demian,
~"DreamSinger"