RELATIONAL AGGRESSION and COVERT BULLYING

Archive for February 13th, 2006

“The Disease to Please”

Posted in February 13th, 2006

by Cheryl Dellasega in Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors

In talking with a reporter the other day she mentioned that women are often handicapped by the “disease to please,” a term I had never heard before. All too readily, I understood what she was talking about, though: the woman who gives, gives, gives until there’s nothing left for herself. In […]

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For Our Daughters

Backstabber

This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.

Stream Song Broadband
Stream Song Dial Up

The double dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of relational aggression and female power - two heads coming out of one body.

For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.

Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.

Certainly, aggressors and targets are specific roles that people do play, but the point here is that the possibility for their manifestation exists in every person.

On this healing journey, it is important to remember that the reality of an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.

Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you the blessing of insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.

Demian,
~"DreamSinger"