• For Our Daughters
  • Backstabber
    This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.

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  • Double Dragon

    The Double Dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of covert aggression and empowerment - two heads coming out of one body.

    For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.

    Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.

    The possibility for their manifestation exists in every person. Some people do play the role of aggressor as opposed to target, but to become an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.

    Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.

    Demian Yumei,
    ~"DreamSinger"

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Working with Women

Published By Demian Yumei On Saturday, January 28th 2006. Under Demian's Articles    
Working with Women
Yesterday at a home school event, I was having a conversation with a mother who worked in human services, and we both commented that our female clients seemed, generally, more difficult to deal with than male. That they could be very manipulative and energy draining. Upon thinking about it some ... Read More

Role model

Published By Demian Yumei On Wednesday, January 25th 2006. Under Demian's Articles    
Role model
I loved my mom, and was very protective of her, but our relationship was, also, filled with ambivalence. My family dynamics were pretty wacked, because all the siblings suffered from various forms of childhood abuse. Suffice to say, I didn't have a whole lot of good role models. What I did ... Read More

Whispers and Giggles

Published By Demian Yumei On Wednesday, January 18th 2006. Under Resources    
Whispers and Giggles
This well written piece is a part of an creative nonfiction anthology at Brown University, written by Cornelia Wilkinson. Whispers and Giggles: Aggression in Middle School Girls ... Read More

Flip the Script

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Wednesday, January 11th 2006. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Flip the Script
This week has been a big one for Ophelia activities, including a final celebration ceremony at one middle school program where 25 girls have gathered over the last ten weeks to explore relationship skills that help rather than hurt. These young women spoke about finding friendships they didn't know ... Read More

Let’s be friends…

Published By Demian Yumei On Monday, January 2nd 2006. Under Demian's Articles    
Let’s be friends…
I saw Charlie and the Chocolate Factory with my youngest daughter and nephew yesterday, and I *loved* it. The entire movie was filled with symbolism and meaning, but there's one scene that was especially relevant for this topic of relational aggression. Two of the five golden ticket holder were girls, ... Read More