• For Our Daughters
  • Backstabber
    This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.

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  • Double Dragon

    The Double Dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of covert aggression and empowerment - two heads coming out of one body.

    For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.

    Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.

    The possibility for their manifestation exists in every person. Some people do play the role of aggressor as opposed to target, but to become an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.

    Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.

    Demian Yumei,
    ~"DreamSinger"

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Still here!

Published By Demian Yumei On Thursday, December 29th 2005. Under Updates and Events    
Still here!
Well, I haven't fallen off the map, but I must admit, sometimes the thought of it sounds nice! This week I'm recovering from the previous two weeks. December was very busy for me, rehearsing, performing, my first book signing, on top of homeschooling, working and getting ready for Christmas. I really ... Read More

website: ABC’s of Bullying

Published By Demian Yumei On Monday, December 19th 2005. Under Resources    
website: ABC’s of Bullying
ABC's of Bullying, http://pathwayscourses.samhsa.gov/bully/bully_2_pg1.htm This is a really neat site that is well laid out and offers a good overview of bullying, both relational and confrontational. This page, http://pathwayscourses.samhsa.gov/bully/bully_2_pg14.htm specifically addresses relational aggression, but I recommend reading through the whole site. It has some helpful information, including the roles witnesses can ... Read More

RA and RNs

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Thursday, December 15th 2005. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
RA and RNs
I started my career in a profession that is uniquely female--nursing. Nowhere was the connectedness of women clearer to me than during those early years in the tense environment of the CCU. So often, we worked as a team, intuitively understanding what was needed from ourselves and each ... Read More

Power of Words

Published By Demian Yumei On Monday, December 12th 2005. Under Demian's Articles    
Power of Words
I made a post, Words Spoken and Unspoken, in my other blog. How often do we use words to deceive ourselves…to deceive others? Words that shoot another person down, words that rip down a reputation like so much ivy from a wall, words that crush a child’s spirit in less ... Read More

Am I Making a Big Deal Out of This?

Published By Demian Yumei On Saturday, December 10th 2005. Under Demian's Articles    
Am I Making a Big Deal Out of This?
No! It is a big deal. If you are or have been a target of relational aggression, I want you to know you are not being "too sensitive" or somehow failing yourself for "letting" other people get to you. When it rains, you get wet. When people are mean, it hurts. ... Read More

Girl Drama

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Tuesday, December 6th 2005. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Girl Drama
This week I watched as some very talented fifth grade girls acted out scenarios that came right from real life. As an observer, it was all too easy to see how relational aggression gets conveyed through a hand on the hip, the flip of one's hair, a roll ... Read More

Website: Don’t Suffer in Silence

Published By Demian Yumei On Monday, December 5th 2005. Under Resources    
Website: Don’t Suffer in Silence
Don't Suffer in Silence is part of a government website in the UK. It has good resources for students, teachers and parents. It has a one minute "Beat Bullying" video and downloadable pdf files. The case studies looked interesting. ... Read More

Just a little uncomfortable…

Published By Demian Yumei On Friday, December 2nd 2005. Under Demian's Articles    
Just a little uncomfortable…
Well, I finally finished a major editing for my manuscript on relational aggression, "Where There's Smoke". Got some more work to do, but the major hurdle has been crossed. There was an interesting phenomenon that occured through the course of this project, and that is the more I worked on the ... Read More