There is nothing more powerful than a grateful heart. Why? Because a grateful heart is an open heart, and an open heart is a channel for love and love is the most powerful healing force on earth.

Being a target of relational aggression, more often than not, means getting hurt, often wounded in a deep and profound way. It knocks us off balance. Taking the time to stop and focus on what’s right with our world, can help you to regain that balance and reclaim your power.

Gratitude is not indebtedness. It’s a deep mindfulness of true value, a right seeing of the true nature of things. It’s saying “yes” to life’s blessings in its myriad forms.

Gratitude is not a high interest loan that you must pay back. Gratitude is a state of being that springs forth from within you. It is the force that expands your cup so that the full measure of good that “overfloweth” increases.

Gratitude is not a privilege for the rich or the few. You can always find something to be grateful. No matter how dire the situation may be, you can stop right where you are and start thinking about what’s good in your life. Even if it’s only having the mental ability to ascertain how horrible everything is in your life, that is a powerful tool and potential you possess to create, dream, imagine, and work for a solution, a tool for which you can be grateful!

Counting your blessings is more than an intellectual exercise. It’s stepping into and up to a higher resonance. If you don’t or aren’t capable of feeling grateful, at this time, it’s okay. The mechanical process of counting is a place to start.

For you see, counting your blessings is more than counting. It’s more than accruing items for a list, more than naming people in your life who do love you, related or not, or saying thank you for being healthy or having food to eat or whatever it is that comes up on your list. It’s those things too, if they’re true for you, but it’s more than that.

Counting your blessings can freeze time enough to allow you to catch your breath. And when you do, even if for a moment, it’s a reprieve, for in that moment, you are not focusing on what is hurting you. And within that moment there is the invitation to stay and linger awhile.

If you’re feeling lonely or isolated, count your blessings. If you can think of even one, you will find another. Just the very process of being grateful for one thing will set into motion finding others.

The act of counting one’s blessings isn’t creating an inventory of “stuff”. It’s a dynamic process, an energy that moves through you, transforming you from one state of being to an-other. Next thing you know you’re spreading your wings, that just a moment ago, you didn’t even know you had!

When relational aggression is used to rob you of your power, finding your wings and taking flight to where you want to go is an incredible act of empowerment.

There’s many ways to get there. Counting one’s blessing is just one way that’s filled with grace.

Demian,
~DreamSinger