• For Our Daughters
  • Backstabber
    This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.

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  • Double Dragon

    The Double Dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of covert aggression and empowerment - two heads coming out of one body.

    For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.

    Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.

    The possibility for their manifestation exists in every person. Some people do play the role of aggressor as opposed to target, but to become an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.

    Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.

    Demian Yumei,
    ~"DreamSinger"

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Female Family Feuds

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Wednesday, November 30th 2005. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Female Family Feuds
Given that my next book is about RA within families AND given that we just passed through the "kickoff" holiday of Thanksgiving, it seems worth musing about families we are born into and/or sworn into. Some of the bitterest stories I received for my recent book came ... Read More

www.hopehouseonline.org

Published By Demian Yumei On Monday, November 28th 2005. Under Resources    
www.hopehouseonline.org
This is the website for a Youth and Family Resource Center in Oklahoma. It's a great resource for not only relational aggression links, but a good number of high quality educational links for children, as well as support for families. I bookmarked this site for my own research use and ... Read More

Ophelia Undone

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Saturday, November 26th 2005. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Ophelia Undone
This month at one of the middle schools where I collaborate we are beginning to "rewrite" the play Hamlet --from Ophelia's point of view. As we work our way through the script and watch clips from the movie, it's striking to see how very sweet and uncertain and eager-to-please ... Read More

Cliques and Assumptions

Published By Demian Yumei On Friday, November 25th 2005. Under Demian's Articles    
Cliques and Assumptions
The other day I saw a show about youth violence, and a man said that cliques were a fact of life, but some kids were sensitive to the teasing and getting picked on, and responded in violent ways. But he said to get rid of cliques was to get rid ... Read More

Counting Our Blessings

Published By Demian Yumei On Wednesday, November 23rd 2005. Under Demian's Articles    
Counting Our Blessings
There is nothing more powerful than a grateful heart. Why? Because a grateful heart is an open heart, and an open heart is a channel for love and love is the most powerful healing force on earth. Being a target of relational aggression, more often than not, means getting hurt, often ... Read More

www.hardygirlshealthywomen.org

Published By Demian Yumei On Thursday, November 17th 2005. Under Resources    
www.hardygirlshealthywomen.org
I just discovered a neat book, called "Girl Fighting: Betrayal and Rejections Among Girls" by Lyn Mikel Brown. She has a web site with two women she's partners with in projects called Hardy Girls Healthy Women Their mission reads Our goal is to build hardiness zones to support girl'sâ„¢ and women's ... Read More

Am I making a big deal out of this?

Published By Demian Yumei On Tuesday, November 8th 2005. Under Demian's Articles    
Am I making a big deal out of this?
Excerpt from "Where There's Smoke" No, relational aggression is a big deal. If you are or have been a target of relational aggression, I want you to know you are not being "too sensitive" or somehow failing yourself for "letting" other people get to you. When it rains, you get wet. When ... Read More

A Call to Older Women

Published By Demian Yumei On Wednesday, November 2nd 2005. Under Demian's Articles    
A Call to Older Women
Today is my birthday! I turn 50, and in honor of this entry into another stage of my life, I want to post an excerpt from my book "Where There's Smoke"...which I hope to have available this month! A Call to Older Women We have too long abandoned our younger sisters ... Read More