Nice is good, but kind is better.

Kindness is niceness with backbone and substance, where sugar and spice is niceness with fluff.

Sugar and spice is opaque. You can’t see through it to the hidden agendas. Kindness has nothing to hide.

Kindness is limitless while respecting boundaries. It’s honest, and like life, seeks balance. Kindness knows, sometimes, the kindest thing to do is tell someone to back off. Kindness sees the whole picture, and is more concerned about the greater good than a good performance.

Niceness is often self-sacrificing, which is why a lot of people like “nice” girls. Kindess is self-respecting It remembers to give to itself, as well as to others. How easy it is to sacrifice being kind to yourself out of attempting to be nice to someone else!

The next time you feel pressured to behave in ways that do not truly reflect how you feel out of wanting to be “nice” or you find yourself wanting to lash out at someone through someone else, because it wouldn’t be “nice” to tell a person upfront how angry you really are, think about how kind that is…to you or to another.

Demian,
~DreamSinger