RELATIONAL AGGRESSION and COVERT BULLYING

Archive for October 19th, 2005

Kindness versus Niceness

Posted in October 19th, 2005

by Demian~DreamSinger in Demian's Articles

Nice is good, but kind is better.
Kindness is niceness with backbone and substance, where sugar and spice is niceness with fluff.
Sugar and spice is opaque. You can’t see through it to the hidden agendas. Kindness has nothing to hide.
Kindness is limitless while respecting boundaries. It’s honest, and like life, seeks balance. Kindness knows, sometimes, […]

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For Our Daughters

Backstabber

This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.

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The double dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of relational aggression and female power - two heads coming out of one body.

For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.

Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.

Certainly, aggressors and targets are specific roles that people do play, but the point here is that the possibility for their manifestation exists in every person.

On this healing journey, it is important to remember that the reality of an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.

Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you the blessing of insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.

Demian,
~"DreamSinger"