• For Our Daughters
  • Backstabber
    This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.

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  • Double Dragon

    The Double Dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of covert aggression and empowerment - two heads coming out of one body.

    For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.

    Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.

    The possibility for their manifestation exists in every person. Some people do play the role of aggressor as opposed to target, but to become an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.

    Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.

    Demian Yumei,
    ~"DreamSinger"

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Who Me?

Published By Demian Yumei On Monday, October 31st 2005. Under Demian's Articles    
Who Me?
It's so easy to see relational aggressors as other people, or to recognize the insecurity and hostility within people who engage in this type of bullying. And it is important to do so, but I think it's also crucial to see relational aggression in terms of how you measure against ... Read More

We Are Not Alone!

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Friday, October 28th 2005. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
We Are Not Alone!
I'm amazed at the interest in relational aggression these days--there seems to be a global awareness of the need to find "a better way" of relating to each other. When I first began researching the topic of relational aggression it was remarkable to discover that many early articles and websites on ... Read More

Principle Players

Published By Demian Yumei On Friday, October 28th 2005. Under Demian's Articles    
Principle Players
Excerpt from Where There's Smoke Relational aggressors are those who use a relationship, either theirs or the relationships of other people, as leverage or weapon, to bully, intimidate, control and/or punish another person. The aggressor can be an acquaintance or an old friend. She can be a long-standing enemy or ... Read More

Relational Aggression vs. Plain Meanness

Published By Demian Yumei On Wednesday, October 26th 2005. Under Demian's Articles    
Relational Aggression vs. Plain Meanness
Certain behaviors of relational aggression can occur between two people in any given context. It becomes relational aggression when the existence of the relationship, itself, or the person's status in it is threatened for the purpose of controlling or punishing that person. For example, the aggressor may threaten to withhold ... Read More

Kindness versus Niceness

Published By Demian Yumei On Wednesday, October 19th 2005. Under Demian's Articles    
Kindness versus Niceness
Nice is good, but kind is better. Kindness is niceness with backbone and substance, where sugar and spice is niceness with fluff. Sugar and spice is opaque. You can't see through it to the hidden agendas. Kindness has nothing to hide. Kindness is limitless while respecting boundaries. It's honest, and like life, ... Read More

A Few Good Women…

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Saturday, October 15th 2005. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
A Few Good Women…
We've been talking a lot about things that are wrong with relationships on this blog, but how about the many things that are RIGHT? Isn't that why we care so much about teaching girls to connect in positive ways? At the risk of being called sexist (again) I'll share what ... Read More

Cheryl on Good Morning America

Published By Demian Yumei On Tuesday, October 11th 2005. Under Updates and Events    
Cheryl on Good Morning America
Yesterday, I saw Cheryl talking with Diane Sawyer on Good Morning America, discussing her new book and sharing some ideas on how to deal with relational aggression. You looked great, Cheryl, and thanks for the work you do empowering women! Many blessings, Demian, ~DreamSinger ... Read More

Choices

Published By Demian Yumei On Thursday, October 6th 2005. Under Demian's Articles    
Choices
I know when you're in the line of fire, when there's so much manipulation and deceit, it can be so frustrating. You want to scream, "Doesn't anyone else see this?" But as much as you feel like your back is against the wall, it's not as solid a structure as ... Read More