Check out the latest bit on my newest book:
Yesterday’s mean girls, today’s drama queens keep their sting
Boston Herald – United States
“I’m sorry, but you just don’t fit in”
Ouch.
But that catch phrase cements author Cheryl Dellasega’s theory: that the nastiness of girls – bullying, gossiping, back-stabbing and aggression – isn’t left behind when you leave [...]
Archive for September 30th, 2005
For Our Daughters
Backstabber
This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.
Stream Song Broadband
Stream Song Dial Up
The double dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of relational aggression and female power - two heads coming out of one body.
For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.
Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.
Certainly, aggressors and targets are specific roles that people do play, but the point here is that the possibility for their manifestation exists in every person.
On this healing journey, it is important to remember that the reality of an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.
Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you the blessing of insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.
Demian,
~"DreamSinger"