RELATIONAL AGGRESSION and COVERT BULLYING

Archive for September 21st, 2005

The Assertive Bitch?

Posted in September 21st, 2005

by Cheryl Dellasega in Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors

Lately, the “b” word has been on my radar screen, thanks to some interesting discussions about “mean women.” All too often, it seems that assertiveness gets confused with aggression and vice versa–perhaps because feminists of the previous decade rebelled so strongly against passivity. Whatever the reason, there seems to be such misunderstanding about […]

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For Our Daughters

Backstabber

This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.

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The double dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of relational aggression and female power - two heads coming out of one body.

For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.

Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.

Certainly, aggressors and targets are specific roles that people do play, but the point here is that the possibility for their manifestation exists in every person.

On this healing journey, it is important to remember that the reality of an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.

Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you the blessing of insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.

Demian,
~"DreamSinger"