• For Our Daughters
  • Backstabber
    This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.

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  • Double Dragon

    The Double Dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of covert aggression and empowerment - two heads coming out of one body.

    For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.

    Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.

    The possibility for their manifestation exists in every person. Some people do play the role of aggressor as opposed to target, but to become an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.

    Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.

    Demian Yumei,
    ~"DreamSinger"

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Martha Stewart Mean?

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Friday, September 30th 2005. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Martha Stewart Mean?
Check out the latest bit on my newest book: Yesterday's mean girls, today's drama queens keep their sting Boston Herald - United States "I'm sorry, but you just don't fit in" Ouch. But that catch phrase cements author Cheryl Dellasega's theory: that the nastiness of girls - bullying, gossiping, back-stabbing and aggression - isn't ... Read More

The Nature of Rumors

Published By Demian Yumei On Friday, September 30th 2005. Under Demian's Articles    
The Nature of Rumors
Rumors are insidious. They can develop a life and momentum of their own, and a bad reputation can follow you in your old circle or proceed you before you enter a new one. It can freeze you in time. A bad reputation becomes other people's negative expectations, a filter through ... Read More

The Assertive Bitch?

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Wednesday, September 21st 2005. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
The Assertive Bitch?
Lately, the "b" word has been on my radar screen, thanks to some interesting discussions about "mean women." All too often, it seems that assertiveness gets confused with aggression and vice versa--perhaps because feminists of the previous decade rebelled so strongly against passivity. Whatever the reason, there seems ... Read More

www.bullyfreekids.com

Published By Demian Yumei On Monday, September 19th 2005. Under Resources    
www.bullyfreekids.com
Bully Free Kids or another title for the same website Bully Free Living is a site worth exploring. Here's their description: Offers bully free and human behavior advice on how to prevent you or your children from becoming the victim of a bully. Build self-esteem and self-confidence in you and ... Read More

Healing the Abuse – Knowledge

Published By Demian Yumei On Saturday, September 17th 2005. Under Demian's Articles    
Healing the Abuse – Knowledge
The title of the web home page is "Healing the Abuse of Relational Aggression". So what does that mean? I don't have a specific steps procedure for healing, because it's hard to outline something that is so uniquely personal to each individual. However, there are certain principles that do seem ... Read More

Woman vs. Woman Prime Time

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Monday, September 5th 2005. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Woman vs. Woman Prime Time
Every year, I watch one and only one television show regularly. In 2005, it was Everyone Loves Raymond until my editor suggested I tune in to Desperate Housewives. It wasn't as bad as I anticipated--but I still found my teeth clenching in a way my dentist warns against at ... Read More

www.intheknowzone.com

Published By Demian Yumei On Thursday, September 1st 2005. Under Resources    
www.intheknowzone.com
According to the site, In the Know Zone is a " one-stop resource for information on substance abuse, sexual and mental health issues." Has a pretty decent section on relational aggression. Not in-depth, but provides a good overview and addresses different aspects of relational aggression. And I liked the ... Read More