RELATIONAL AGGRESSION and COVERT BULLYING

Archive for August 24th, 2005

What to Do When Words Become a Weapon

Posted in August 24th, 2005

by Cheryl Dellasega in Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors

At the heart of relational aggression is some kind of hurtful communication. Somehow, one person intentionally or unintentionally uses words or behavior to wound another. Not a single punch is pulled, but damage is still done.
Today, I was looking at the Club Ophelia poster “What to Do When Words Become a Weapon.” […]

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For Our Daughters

Backstabber

This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.

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The double dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of relational aggression and female power - two heads coming out of one body.

For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.

Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.

Certainly, aggressors and targets are specific roles that people do play, but the point here is that the possibility for their manifestation exists in every person.

On this healing journey, it is important to remember that the reality of an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.

Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you the blessing of insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.

Demian,
~"DreamSinger"