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  • Backstabber
    This is a song I wrote from my personal experience with relational aggression.

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  • Double Dragon

    The Double Dragon is an appropriate symbol for the topic of covert aggression and empowerment - two heads coming out of one body.

    For in truth, the dragons exist one within the other, as both aggression and empowerment exist within each person.

    Relational aggression isn't so much about a specific person, a "bitch" we love to hate, as much as a state of mind; a set of choices we all can make.

    The possibility for their manifestation exists in every person. Some people do play the role of aggressor as opposed to target, but to become an aggressor is only a choice away for each one of us.

    Be willing then, to see yourself, if only in potential, in both roles - aggressor and target. Doing so will give you insight and understanding, and with that, true empowerment.

    Demian Yumei,
    ~"DreamSinger"

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Did I Do Something to Deserve This?

Published By Demian Yumei On Wednesday, August 31st 2005. Under Demian's Articles    
Did I Do Something to Deserve This?
No! If you are or have been a target of relational aggression, you did nothing to deserve it. No one has the right to single you out, to be cruel or entice others to have a good laugh at your expense. If you are different, it's certainly not ... Read More

Could You Be a Queen Bee

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Tuesday, August 30th 2005. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Could You Be a Queen Bee
My editor asked me to develop a "quiz" on adult relational aggression to go out with the press kit for Mean Girls Grown Up (release date September 23!). Thought it might be a little "lighter" perspective than writing about RA and also a helpful resource to evaluate behavior(s). Exclusive ... Read More

www.wordscanheal.org

Published By Demian Yumei On Monday, August 29th 2005. Under Resources    
www.wordscanheal.org
Website Resource: WordsCanHeal.org is a website created to address the damage words can inflict and the power of them to heal. It contains two downloadable kits for the workplace and family, and a downloadable "Words Can Heal" handbook. There is also a pledge you can sign to be more mindful of ... Read More

Cheryl’s Views on Relational Aggression

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Saturday, August 27th 2005. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Cheryl’s Views on Relational Aggression
****Tessa is a seventh grader who is taller and bigger than most of her peers. Since grade school she has been teased and harassed about her size, but now she tells me she isn't "allowed" to eat lunch in the regular cafeteria because other kids make fun of her. ... Read More

What to Do When Words Become a Weapon

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Wednesday, August 24th 2005. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
What to Do When Words Become a Weapon
At the heart of relational aggression is some kind of hurtful communication. Somehow, one person intentionally or unintentionally uses words or behavior to wound another. Not a single punch is pulled, but damage is still done. Today, I was looking at the Club Ophelia poster "What to Do When ... Read More

After the Fair

Published By Demian Yumei On Monday, August 22nd 2005. Under Demian's Articles, Updates and Events    
After the Fair
What an incredible weekend it was. I met so many wonderful people. It was DreamSinger's first full-length concert, and I was just amazed at the power of Song to heal and move people...more so than what I had experienced before. I was talking to a woman at my booth ... Read More

Celebration of Life York Expo 2005

Published By Demian Yumei On Thursday, August 18th 2005. Under Updates and Events    
Celebration of Life York Expo 2005
Good morning! If you happen to be in the York area in Pennsylvania, this weekend, August 20 -21, DreamSinger will be having a booth at the Celebration of Life York Expo, York Fairgrounds from 10 A.M. to 5 P.M. And on Sunday, we will be performing a musical presentation on ... Read More

Queen Bee for a Day?

Published By Cheryl Dellasega On Monday, August 15th 2005. Under Cheryl Dellasega, Guest Authors    
Queen Bee for a Day?
Yesterday I got an email that surprised me. "Wendy" wrote to say she had seen me on TV and immediately went to E-bay where she bid on and purchased a galley (pre-release) copy of my next book, Mean Girls Grown Up. Her determination to find the book ... Read More

First Post…First Blog

Published By Demian Yumei On Saturday, August 13th 2005. Under Demian's Articles    
First Post…First Blog
Well...it's my first blog on my own server, anyway...and I have to thank Jennifer Ledbetter for creating the theme for this blog...I've experienced so many "firsts" this year. My first CD, my first published book, and my first grandson! And this new venture with Cheryl Dellasega is another first. As a singer/songwriter, I can't wait to get into podcasting, and Cheryl and I talked about inviting women and girls to share their stories of relational aggression by authoring them here.